"About Men" paragraph

In "About Men" Gretel Ehrlich states that "young cowboys are often evasive with women... they don't know how to bring their tenderness into the house" (572)  She is obviously saying that cowboys can be shy around women.  Yet, this statement does make the slight implication that cowboys are shy around women simply because they have different genders; however, others might argue, in a different interpretation of Ehrlich's statement, that it is the job that makes cowboys gentle like Ghandi.*  Ehrlich does, of course, writes about how cowboys step away from their inner fears into outer space to save cow or cattle.  In fact, she even says "A cowboy is someone who love his work.  Since the hours are long... and the pay is $30 he has to" (Ehrlich 571).  According to my personal interpretation, Ehrlich is saying that cowboys "love" their work not because they enjoy sleeping in a cavern, but because they earn a satisfactory amount of money.  Cowboys only risk heir lives to save cows because it is their job to do so.  He doesn't always feel a complete total attachment to the cattle (the cows will get slaughtered at a meat processing factory anyway), he just really needs to get the money.  And because cowboys do not often hang around with women while working, they tend to be shy around women.  This does raise some interesting questions though: Why do only men get to be cowboys during the 19th century?  Why weren't there any cowgirls? These questions do not only apply to cowboys, but also football and ping-pong.  In football, there rarely seems to be any known female athletes; there are only male football players (at least in professional football).  Table tennis is not quite as extreme as football in gender segregation.  However, professional ping-pong is often split into male and female tournaments, preventing men and women from playing against each other.  Even several centuries ago when there were still powerful monarchs in Europe (who get called "Your majesty," "Your honor," etc.), there was an excessive majority of male rulers.  Also, male monarchs are noticeably called "kings" while female monarchs are called "queens," implying gender segregation in language since both kinds of rulers are not addressed by the same title.  There are even many more examples of gender segregation that are not included in this post.  My point is that is it fair for women to not participate in activities that are considered to be men's jobs?  It is fair for men and women to do participate together in activities such as sports?  Feel free to answer in the comments.

*According to the internet, this name should be spelled as "Gandhi," not "Ghandi."  So Ms. Valentino may have incorrectly spelled his name.  Also, it is bit of a hyperbole to compare the gentleness of cowboys to that of Gandhi because Gandhi did not treat women very well.  In fact, according to an article I found on the Internet, he was a misogynist.  (The link to the article is below this footnote).

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2010/jan/27/mohandas-gandhi-women-india